What I mean when I say “I can’t do that”- Anxiety Version:
- I am unable to do that
- I am too stressed out to do that
- I cannot face the humiliation of attempting to do that
- My body will physically not allow me to do that
- I am on the verge of a panic attack
- I cannot do that
What people hear:
- I am unwilling to do that
- I am just shy
- I am overreacting
- I am lazy
- I need to get more experience in social situation to help my anxiety
- I need a push
- I don’t want to do that
Inspired by X
I. say good morning and thank you to the bus drivers
who carry thousands of people each day to wherever they need to be
and are submerged in anonymity and tedious routine;
you could be the only one that acknowledges their humanity.
II. hurry a little faster across pedestrian crossings
even if the people in their cars don’t notice,
you never know who’s running late
or who cannot take another breath away from a loved one
who could be just three blocks away.
III. always hold the door for someone behind you
you may be the only one today
to show them that someone cares,
you may be the one that makes their day;
be aware of people while you exist.
IV. tell the cashier you hope they have a lovely day too
and do it with every genuine fibre of your being,
they’ll greet many customers today and tomorrow
but maybe your smile will remind them there is beauty outside these store walls.
V. tell someone you think they look beautiful today
or you like their hair or their shoes or their nail polish,
it will inject them with confidence
and their happiness
will fuel your own.
Kissing is cool. Light kissing, kissing on the cheek, kissing someone’s forehead. Kissing hard and biting and when someone holds your face with both their hands and kisses you some more. Man. Gimme all the kisses.